Eyal Gutentag- "Is it over, Dad?" How to have conversations with our children about COVID-19
Diane and Eyal Gutentag’s children enjoying the lake
As summer rolls in and our country begins reopening, COVID-19 is still ever present. While it has been recommended that we continue to “stay at home,” restaurants, pools, playgrounds, and other social experiences are already reopening. As a result, parents everywhere have had to assess when getting out of the house is worth the risk, and when it’s safer to stay isolated. For many, the decisions can feel overwhelming.
But, parents aren’t the only ones asking themselves what is going on with COVID-19. Our kids are also facing the unknown. As your children get anxious for things to return to “normal,” they will likely have a lot of questions for you. “Is it over?” “Can I see my friends?” “How long will this last?” In order to navigate the playdate invites and sleepover proposals this summer, you should be prepared to have open conversations about COVID-19 and safety.
Unfortunately, very little is known so far about coronavirus in children. While studies from various countries show fewer cases of COVID-19 in kids than in adults, it is possible that children can be asymptomatic carriers. Some researchers also believe that other conditions related to coronavirus could emerge in children. Until we know more, we must continue to proceed with caution.
How do I discuss COVID-19 and reopening with my kids?
Before you talk to your kids, you should first gather as much information as you can. Many fears around COVID-19 are tied to the unknown, so being armed with the latest data can help both you and your kids feel more secure. I recommend learning about COVID-19 directly from sources like the CDC and leading epidemiologists affiliated with top universities.. Every city is different, so get the latest information about what your state is recommending, and how you can protect your family. Information about coronavirus is changing and evolving rapidly, so continue to educate yourself as we move forward in the pandemic. The more you know, the more you will be able to comfort and support your kids.
Where do I begin?
Depending on the age of your children, broaching the topic of COVID-19 may feel intimidating. If their friends are beginning to be allowed to attend more social events, you may be feeling pressure to let your child join in on the fun. Before addressing any specific event, start with the big picture of what’s happening in the world right now.
It is important to create a dialogue here. Ask your kids what they already know about COVID-19. How are they feeling about it? Do they have any concerns? Let their current feelings on the situation help guide the conversation. It is important to answer their questions with facts, and to arm them with knowledge. They might be confused about all the different opinions they are hearing. You can explain that like anything else, they may hear rumors from their friends. But safety must continue to be a priority.
How do I decide which events are safe?
After you have had a general conversation with your children about COVID, you may feel comfortable venturing into discussing specific events. Your kids may want to know when they are allowed to play with their friends at the park, go to the movies, or visit a theme park. In some states, people are moving much more freely, and your kid may be receiving invites to birthday parties, camps, or classes. When these things come up, you should first refer to the latest data and recommendations in your area. Are outdoor activities a safer option? Consider the risk. Next, you should address the emotions your kid is feeling around the idea of going. Are they anxious? Excited? Scared? Take each decision one step at a time. There is no need to rush. Your children's physical, mental, and emotional health should always be your top priority. - Eyal Gutentag